Some days the hiking comes easy. When I played college sports, it was called being in the zone, so I guess it’s similar to that. My steps are smooth, my breathing is even, and my mind is present with my surroundings.
Some days, though, the hiking is just plain hard. The baggage feels like too much. The pit in my stomach is so deep I feel like if I take one more step I’m going to tumble down into a hole I can never hope to crawl out of.
Today was one of those days. I had lofty goals. I wanted Mount Madison. And I wanted the King Ravine trail. I was riding a high from a few weeks ago when I went up and down Beaver Brook trail and then did the Baldfaces and Eagle Crag the next day. I was in the zone that weekend. Today was very different. There was this pit. I couldn’t shake it. Nothing I could do would get rid of it.
I hiked a mile with that pit. It grew larger with every step I took. I finally sat down on a rock, ate a pop tart, and gave up on my original plan. I tried a different plan, one that didn’t involve a mountain. But as I started hiking out the new trail I had picked, that didn’t work either. Now, not only was I crying, but my anxiety was so out of control I was sure that if I took one more step the trail was going to plunge me into mortal danger and I would be lost in the mountains forever. It was a long drive back home.
That pit sucks.
That pit is hard to understand, but I’ve come to realize that it encompasses feelings of sadness, grief and loss. Sadness for all the pain that these past two years have held. The enormity of what I’ve been through seems to have slowly crept its way into my consciousness. There are not words strong enough to describe my experience, but what I do know is that the desperation, emptiness and gut-wrenching depression felt intolerable and impossible to escape. I feel the intensity of that experience as if it was yesterday. Somehow, the past still feels like the present.
It is a stark contrast to where I am now, and perhaps this is why I feel it so deeply. Today, my emotions are light, my soul has more moments of contentment than it does depression, and I see free time as areas of opportunity. Moments of hope are more common than moments of dread, and the phrase “live your best life” no longer seems like some stupid cliche.
Even today, as I struggle with being able to accept where I am and owning the happiness that I have, I remember what it is like to not have any of this. And the sadness I feel for all those years I struggled is part of what makes up this pit.
The other part of the pit is grief. Feelings of loss for time I can never get back. Feelings of loss for time I feel was wasted away. I think the reason I feel this grief so intensely today is because I understand how quickly time can be taken away. Today, the time I have is filled with moments of joy, peace and anticipation for the moments ahead of me. The time isn’t perfect, but it is so much more than tolerable. And I grieve the loss of so many years when it wasn’t.
“Let us leave this place where the smoke blows black
And the dark street winds and bends.
Past the pits where asphalt flowers grow
We shall walk with a walk that is measured and slow,
And watch where the chalk-white arrows go
To the place where the sidewalk ends.
–Shel Silverstein
The next time I hike, I will honor that pit. And after I pay that pit the respect it deserves, I will gather up my feelings and keep walking.